My story wasn’t the same as that of the children I fostered, but I knew what it felt like to be separated from my parents. During my early childhood I lived with my aunt and uncle and visited my parents. The core feelings of abandonment and rejection in my youth consumed me at times. Although my parents had valid reasons, it never undercut the anguish I felt deep within.

Hebrews 4:15 says, “For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched by the feelings of our infirmities, tempted in all points as we are, yet without sin.” This reason alone gave me an unrestrained compassion for the kids who called me “Mom.”

Being compelled to love and nurture kids was born out of a deep pain I saw behind their eyes—-those same eyes that I once had. Many of their fears were all too familiar for me. Jesus saw that same pain, which motivated Him to go to the cross and redeem us. 

What I’ve found to be most effective in serving these kids is love and relationship. This is the key that breaks down walls and calms fears. It is the same with God. He knows and can relate to our problems, and His solution to every one of them is love and relationship with Him.

It’s been 14 years now, and no matter how many kids have come through, I still see that same anxiety and fear during initial placement. But, oh, the miracle of seeing the transformation that takes place! There is a joy in seeing them free, safe and more confident than ever.

Another miracle is when I see them whole and passing that love on to others. The ability to pay it forward proves that sowing and reaping works. This, to me, is “recycled healing.”

Shirley Davis has been a foster mom through Buckner Children and Family Services since 1997. Over the years, she has fostered 17 children.

Prayers of the Week:
-God, remove all barriers, so we may freely receive your love, and once we receive it, return that same love to others.
-God, be with families who are considering foster care today, but who are fearful or unsure. Give them peace and wisdom, and strength to move forward according to your plan for their lives. 

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